When in Doubt...

By the time you are reading this post, I probably have cried buckets of tears out of fear of failure and lost hours of sleep from restless nights of anxiety. (I was 21 weeks pregnant when I wrote this, but I'm publishing it while I'm 33 weeks pregnant) 

Try explaining your dearest vision to a friend who doesn't get it. Hell, try selling the vision to yourself. Right when I was in the throws of self doubt, something miraculous happened. 

Remember, this whole journey started when I sent flowers to friends who have inspired me to do better in some way. I received the initial phone calls of complete elation from those friends which started my wheels turning on this idea of entrepreneurship. One of those friends was a big time style blogger in the plus sized community. 

Immediately after that, weeks went by when I began planning and trying to figure out how to create this movement to "Inspire. Connect. Say Thank you. Spread Kindness." After a few months of notes and endless research, I became stuck. I absolutely thought "this is crazy! No one is going to get this!" 

Keep in mind, that I didn't call every one of those friends to tell them of my new idea. 

Well, I'm catching up on Chastity's blog, really admiring the fabulous pink dress she wore in the post and began to read what she wrote. She was invited to speak at a conference in California and she posted/printed her speech! 

I began reading until I realized at the end, she was talking about me and the flowers I sent her! That's when I screamed! I screamed, "Oh my God! She got what I was trying to do!"  (Click picture to make it bigger to read the excerpt) 

 

At that very moment, I picked myself  back up and continued to work on God's Favorite Surprises. If my simple random act of kindness struck a chord with her, then I was on the right track! 

It's true! The universe has a way of showing you exactly what you need when you least expect it! 

You can read that entire post/speech here.... It's totally worth it. 

The Reason...

I am writing this blog post probably months in advance of God's Favorite Surprises official launch. I am writing this to encourage myself that I am supposed to be doing this. That I can do this. And that there are people out there like me who want to make a dream come true. 

I thought this would be the perfect space for me to share how this all really started. I was feeling depleted as a teacher and knew that I was being called to do other things. I just didn't know what. I wrote down a list of all of my gifts and couldn't figure out how any of those gifts could manifest into a sustainable career.  Keep in mind that I have a husband, 1 1/2 year old and I was three months pregnant! Aaaahhh!

 I even went so far as to send an email to my closest friends and asked what they thought my gifts were...maybe they could enlighten me on a gift/talent that I didn't even know I had.  

Still stuck. Still trying to figure it out, I decided to just do something that I've wanted to for a while. I wanted to let people that I personally know who have followed their passions into a career of fulfillment that I was proud of them and I am encouraged by their progress.  Because that's ultimately what I longed for. I wrote down three names of women who inspire me not merely by their words but by their hustle and committed to sending them flowers. 

That's it. I didn't want anything in return. One of the friends I hadn't personally spoken to in a year outside of social media contact. I was adamant about the type of flowers I wanted each person to receive and truly the only purpose was to let them know that they ROCK and they inspire me to rock!  

I ordered the flowers, created my own personal message to each one and went on about my day. I expected a text message or email but what I got was so much more. 

I received phone calls from the ladies literally crying from the sheer surprise of the flowers but more importantly in response to  what I said to them in the card.

1. They had NO idea that I was watching them and even considered them inspirations. They just thought we were friends and that was as far as it went. 

2. I don't know if I have a special gift for timing but the flowers came on the exact days that all of them were not at their best or doubting themselves. 

I was dumbfounded by the response. But more importantly, my spirit was soaring from the feeling I got from their response! When I hung up the phone, I thought "why can't I do that for people who are too busy to do it themselves?!?" And let's face it. EVERYBODY IS busy these days. 

As I began to explore this idea more, one thing kept coming to mind. WOMEN don't do things like this for each other. We typically expect praise from the opposite sex. Add to that how mean women can be to each other on social media, I knew in my heart that what I really wanted to do was create a movement of inspiration, motivation and just plain upliftment! (I just made that word up) 

I also realized that a big part of the reaction from the ladies was that they actually received something tangible as a token of my appreciation of them. Then it all just clicked. 

It's not rocket science. It's not a new idea. But it's one that is missing today. We miss the simple things. Words of affirmation from our peers. A handwritten thank you card. A simple vase of flowers. Social media and text messages have taken away the very things that once allowed us to truly connect on a human level. 

How many times has someone sown a seed into your life and you kept meaning to "send them something nice" to say thank you. But you don't. Not because they didn't deserve it but because life got in the way. 

How many times have you walked out of a meeting and kept thinking of ways to stand out or make a further impression but instead you decided to wait on their response? Sending a personal thank you or flowers almost forces their hand to communicate with you again. 

Personal cards and flowers say so much about you. How thoughtful you are and how you pay attention to detail. We all get bombarded with emails and text messages which ultimately desensitizes us in a way. 

When you receive anything that is given genuinely out of thoughtfulness and appreciation, that person always stands out in your mind. I thought this is the perfect way for me to serve women. To uplift each other. To encourage each other. To place value on the invaluable seeds that we all receive from our mentors or business associates. 

And now we are here. I want to create a movement where the goal is simple.

To  Inspire.

To Connect.

To Say Thank You. 

It's the simple things that make room for big things to happen in our lives. 

So to put a face to how all of this started, here are the three ladies that ultimately started my new journey into entrepreneurship.

 

 

Chastity is a style blogger who is making waves in the plus sized community. She very clearly told me about 4 years ago  that she was going to find a way to make her blog her primary source of income and she did just that. She is also co-founder and creator of the newly minted  CurvyCon conference. ( http://thecurvycon.com/ )

This is Juanette, style blogger at  http://fashionnette-work.blogspot.com/ . She is also everyone's favorite reading teacher in Dallas with a heart as big as Texas! 

This is Juanette, style blogger at  http://fashionnette-work.blogspot.com/ . She is also everyone's favorite reading teacher in Dallas with a heart as big as Texas! 



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Ashley is the head of her very own PR firm, Medley, Inc. in Houston. She has been hustling for years and she does it so stylishly and she does it her way. I've admired her hustle for years.